Dear Bunmi, must I have a boyfriend?
In my 26 years on this earth, I have only had a casual relationship with a man I met at the university, but we were not intimate.
I don’t really fancy the idea of having a boyfriend, but my family and friends are at my back to have one and are always matchmaking.
I have a good career and I don’t mind being single. Is this normal?
Nkechi, by e-mail.
It doesn’t matter if your views are normal or not, they are yours. So, stick to them.
You don’t need to get irritated with your family and friends. They match-make because they are concerned about you.
In the meantime, take another look at your views on relationships. I bet that deep down, you must have a bit of anxiety about it all. Maybe you worry you would have to compromise too much.
Or is it because you have seen a lot of relationships turn bad and want none of it?
You are right not to want to settle for an unhappy life, but you can choose a partner who respects your space and have a relationship that works for you.
A lot of women, who were once in your shoes, have eventually settled with partners they are now happy with.
Just keep an open mind.